6 Tips To Be The Most Charming Person In The Room
Ever wondered how some people just seem to lighten the room? Learn from the world-class actor, Hugh Jackman, his practical tips and put yourself at ease!
Hugh Jackman is an actor whose charm was well talked about in Hollywood.
As the face of many productions, he goes on numerous talk shows and seems to win all the hearts in the room over, no matter what the circumstances are over.
With these tips, you can go into any conversation
1. Reframe the situations which make you nervous
We all have a natural charm when we are in our natural state. But we often lose it in the situations that are uncomfortable to us.
Hugh gives us his first tip: “I used to always go into auditions as if it was a rehearsal, so when they said it was as if rather we’re trying to work together”
Make sure you ask questions to them and don’t be afraid to voice your preferences. This will help you reframe the situation in your mind and give you more confidence.
For instance, if you’re making plans with someone for the first time, make sure you choose something you also enjoy doing and in a setting you find comfortable. Because if you relax and you’re having fun, you’ll appear more confident and naturally more charming.
Actually, a calm demeanor is scientifically proven to help us achieve more.
Hugh Jackman explains this in an interview at the Tim Ferris Show as the %85 rule. Hugh tells about the experiment when athletes were to perform at a 85%, they were performing better than when they were told to perform at 100%.
Why? Simply because a rather achievable milestone allowed them to keep a more calm demeanor and achieve more.
2. Be contagiously positive
So, what’s his secret?
People love being around him because he makes them have fun and feel good about themselves.
This starts with the mindset. Your first goal in social situations should be having fun yourself.
He explains this situation when he hosted the Oscars, as it is a high stressful setting even for a global actor. Hugh displays classic signs of happy confidence with a big laugh and smile.
The goal here is not to be fake but to get in touch with your natural positivity and playfulness.
3. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable
While admitting emotions may make you feel vulnerable, everyone has these feelings. So, when you share your experience with negative emotions, they can relate to you and have respect for you for voicing something they may feel shamed for. Hugh doesn’t have to pretend and it makes the conversation more fluid.
It’s better to start with flaws you are more comfortable rather than the ones which trigger your insecurities.
4. Own your flaws and don’t be afraid to talk about them
In real life, a good place to start is by laughing when you mess up or make a mistake.
5. Good and catchy storytelling
Storytelling is an art of entertaining the listeners with an engaging narrative.
When Imply that it was a high stakes, set your stories up with mystery and suspension for the maximum benefit.
6. Make people feel special
Hugh has an incredible ability to make people around him feel special. Compliments are an easy way to make someone feel special. But sometimes it can go wrong and come off as sucking off or ingenuine. By adding more context around the compliment and enhancing it, compliment comes off as coming from a real place of appreciation.
When complimenting, always remember the best compliments will be the ones that you genuinely appreciate about the other person and a quality that they take pride in but don’t hear enough.
Eye contact is another way of making people feel special. Giving your full attention and eye contact to someone while they’re talking can truly make an impact in your relationship with them.
Let us know in the comments if these tips have been useful to you!
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